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Forge the Year That Defines You

Another year is already racing past, and here’s the real question: are you moving with it or standing still, watching the days slip through your fingers? It’s a bitter truth for many—those goals you set on January 1st are already starting to fade into the background, drowned out by routines, doubts, or the sheer momentum of life. But let’s pause here, because the turning of a calendar doesn’t magically change anything unless you do. The difference lies in deciding what this year will truly mean for you—and that starts by asking yourself the right questions.

Too often, people struggle not because they aim too high, but because they never aim at all. Choosing what to pursue feels daunting, so they carry on with the status quo, convincing themselves that dreaming big isn’t worth the effort. Some may even write life off altogether, but you’re not in that group, are you? You wouldn’t be here if you didn’t feel the pull to make something more of your days. Today isn’t about resolutions—it’s about narrowing your focus to the goals that truly matter, shaping a year worth remembering. And it starts now.

First, take a moment to confront the year that’s just passed. What moments, people, or experiences brought you the most joy? What made you feel alive, fulfilled, or deeply connected? Maybe it was an unforgettable trip, a heartfelt reconciliation, or the start of a personal journey toward healing. These aren’t just memories—they’re clues, showing you what truly matters. Write them down. Dig deeper. What about these moments made them so meaningful? Was it the sense of growth, love, or newfound purpose? These are the catalysts for your best self; recognizing them is the first step to shaping your future.

But where there’s light, there’s shadow. The second question isn’t as comfortable: what, or who, dragged you down? Maybe it was a toxic relationship you finally left behind, financial struggles that kept you up at night, or the weight of grief after losing someone dear. These moments leave marks, but they don’t have to define you. Put them on paper—see them for what they are and take away their power to silently haunt you. Once they’re laid out before you, they become lessons, not chains.

Speaking of lessons, this brings us to the third point: what did you learn this year? Growth doesn’t only come from triumphs; sometimes it’s born from struggle. Did you uncover a hidden talent or passion that lit a spark in you? Or maybe you faced harsher truths—like realizing some people can’t be changed, no matter how much you love them, or that chasing external validation only leads to emptiness. These insights are your foundation. Whether they taught you resilience, self-worth, or the importance of following your gut, they shape the road ahead. Write them down—every realization, every breakthrough. They matter.

Now let’s look forward. What do you want more of in the coming year? Think back to the highlights you identified—those people, places, and experiences that made life feel full. Do you want to see family more often, deepen connections, or explore new corners of the world? Perhaps it’s a hobby you’re ready to dive into or a career path that’s finally starting to align with your dreams. Whatever it is, be specific. Vague intentions won’t lead you anywhere. Write it down—make it real.

Finally, the hardest question: what’s the one thing you’re too scared to commit to? That dream you keep pushing aside because it feels impossible, stupid, or just plain terrifying. Maybe it’s a big move to start fresh in a city you’ve only seen in your dreams, or the leap of faith it takes to start that business you’ve been quietly planning in the back of your mind. Fear is a powerful force, but it’s a liar. It tells you that you’re safer in your comfort zone, even when that comfort zone is holding you back. So call yourself out—write it down. Own it.

These five questions are your guide, not just to another year but to a turning point. Take the time to answer them honestly, even if it stings. Dig into the emotions, confront the truths, and imagine what your life could look like if you dared to act. This year can be your most meaningful yet—not by accident, but by choice. Keep pushing, and until next time, keep forging forward.

The new year is here, and already, the sense of time slipping away faster than we’d like is settling in. It’s a feeling most are familiar with: the rush of time, the sense that we’ve barely blinked and a new year is already in full swing. By now, many people have either revisited their goals for the year or, in some cases, realized that they’ve set their sights too high. Whether they realize they’ve overcommitted or just haven’t quite found the right direction yet, a shift in focus is often needed.

But what happens if you’re unsure what to aim for? You’ve come to a crossroads, and the idea of choosing a path seems more daunting than moving forward. Many people stay stuck in a rut, not because they’re not motivated, but because they haven’t yet found something that excites them enough to take the plunge. Some even ignore this crossroads entirely, drifting through life with no clear destination. But you? You’re different. You’ve made the choice to be here today, and that in itself speaks volumes.

The truth is, many people miss out on what could be a life-changing year because they’ve never asked themselves the right questions, or they are avoiding the deep and difficult answers. Today, we’re going to explore five questions that could very well unlock the potential for your year ahead. These questions aren’t just about setting superficial goals but about finding what truly resonates with you at your core. It’s about zeroing in on what’s meaningful so you can focus your energy in the right places.

Mel Robbins, a well-known motivational speaker and author, has spoken extensively about how we sabotage our own growth, and she offers a practical framework for how we can stop doing that. Robbins suggests answering five simple yet profound questions to help guide your reflection. And while the questions might seem straightforward, the answers aren’t always easy to come by.

The first question is about reflection. Take a moment to think back over the past year. Which experiences, people, or moments stirred the most positive feelings in you? What gave you that rush of positive energy? Maybe it was a vacation that helped you reconnect with someone important or perhaps you started a new chapter in your life, like adopting a healthier lifestyle or welcoming a child. Whatever it was, pinpoint those moments that made you feel truly alive. What were the catalysts for those highlights? Was it a moment of reconciliation, or was it something unexpected? Write down these memories and explore what about them made you feel so energized.

On the other hand, it’s equally important to ask yourself: what or who drained your energy? Reflecting on the moments that triggered negative feelings is just as crucial. Was there a difficult breakup or a toxic relationship that took its toll? Did you lose someone important or face a personal loss? Maybe it was a financial struggle that made you feel hopeless about your future. Whatever the low points were, acknowledging them is key to understanding what held you back and what negative emotions took up valuable mental space. Write these down too—don’t let these emotions hold free rent in your mind anymore. Get them out on paper and acknowledge their role in your journey.

Answering the first two questions will lead you to the third: what were the biggest lessons you learned last year? Maybe you discovered a hidden passion for something you never thought you’d try. Or perhaps you had to accept that some relationships are beyond repair, and you had to come to terms with the fact that external validation isn’t the key to your happiness. Many of us learn this lesson the hard way—realizing that the only validation that truly matters is the one we give ourselves. What were your ‘aha’ moments? Write them down, and reflect on the circumstances that brought those insights into your life.

Then, think about what you want to see more of in the coming year. Take a look at the things that made you happy last year. Do you want to nurture those relationships more? Maybe you want to deepen your understanding of a hobby you picked up or immerse yourself further into a career path that excites you. Whether it’s spending more time with family, seeking therapy, or traveling, what do you want more of? Write it down. Your goals don’t have to be grand—they just need to be things that truly matter to you.

Finally, what scares you? What are you hesitating to commit to because you fear it might not work out? This is the question that stings the most because it forces you to face your own fears head-on. Is there something you’ve been wanting to do for years, but you’re afraid it might be impossible or too risky? It might be moving to a new place or starting a business you’ve always dreamed of. Whatever it is, confront that fear, write it down, and think about why it scares you. Often, it’s the things we’re most afraid of that lead to the most incredible growth if we’re willing to push through the fear.

Answering these questions won’t give you an easy road, but it will give you a roadmap to navigate the next chapter of your life. With clarity comes the power to focus, and with focus comes progress. Reflect deeply on these questions, answer them honestly, and then use the insights to create a plan for your year. You’re already on the right path by asking these questions in the first place. Now it’s time to move forward with intention and confidence.

Keep pushing forward, and as always, keep on rising.

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